Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year is tomorrow. We must live fast and love hard before the light wanes and we hunker down against the cold and the darkness in our Northern Hemisphere. Winter makes me feel vulnerable. I am more subject, sensitive to cold which is a form of physical vulnerability. I think the time to retreat, hunker down is in winter. But we must hunker down and inclose ourselves against the cold with the warmth of our hearts and our spirits. It will be light again. Seconds more light each day.
Tomorrow is the shortest day. The next after that will be seconds longer.
THE INEVITABLE QUESTION
“The inevitable question is this: why do we want to expose our
vulnerable conflicted selves to someone else? Because we want to love.
We take the risk, we walk out into light and offer ourselves to a
beloved. This feels wonderful, but when things get tough we run back
inside ourselves. We choose the familiarity of fear and lovelessness
over the vulnerability of love, until we feel safe enough to go back and
try love again. That is essentially the rhythm of every intimate
relationship – risk and retreat. Until finally something miraculous
happens. We look around and we’re living in light.
Love has been silently weaving our higher and lower natures
– blending fear, anger, survival, and protection into the energy of devotion, trust, compassion,
Tragically, our culture does not teach us to see love this way, and
not enough couples ever finish the path to love.” –Tony Arnold